Regarding Our Summer Up North – A Short List

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1. Just over two weeks ago, a moving truck came to take away our belongings. We fought D.C. traffic for one last time and headed away from the East Coast. The last two weeks have been the epitome of unabated vacation bliss as we’ve basked in the flawless early Michigan summer.

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2. Drinking morning cups of coffee on the back deck of my parents’ home is a luxury that never grows old.

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3. I woke up from a nap one day last week to find that Mark had driven an hour away to purchase five ducklings. They’re precious and soft and captivating and my mother calls the “Hippy Ducklings” because we have absolutely no idea what we’re going to do with them in six weeks. And who knew that ducks grew so fast?

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4. There are few more peaceful ways to pass a cloudy afternoon than fishing on the Boardman River boardwalk in downtown Traverse City.

5. We celebrated our first anniversary with an afternoon spent exploring the beach and pier in Manistee followed by a lovely dinner at Bluefish. In some ways, I can’t believe how quickly this year has flown by. In other ways (all good ones), it feels like Mark and I have been married forever. I can’t wait to see what Year 2 holds for us.

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6. Our little guy is due in just over two weeks. We are beyond excited to meet him.

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Grownup summer vacation is a true luxury and we are soaking up every minute of this unscheduled, unhurried time. What are your vacation plans for this summer?

 

Around Here Lately and Saying Goodbye

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Hello! The demands of family reunion and wedding schedules and a new job for me and planning for Baby McCord have overwhelmed my mind and calendar for the last couple weeks. Those very good things, coupled with a glorious trip to California to see friends and family, have utterly consumed my brain waves recently.

It was good to have one less thing to think about in the midst of our full-of-good-things-April-and-May, but I was surprised by how much I missed blogging. And all of you.

So I’m back, writing in this little space, even amidst life’s rush (because, really, won’t it always be rushed and busy and too full for extra good things?), mostly because I simply cannot step away.

Along with this totally cliche “I’m back!” post comes an announcement of a different sort too. It’s always so strange and awkward to say goodbye to a place, especially a place that has become as familiar as this city has become to Mark and me.

But this weekend, we took our last walk by the Capitol, spent our last Sunday afternoon strolling along the Mall, sat in our church for the last time and said a formal goodbye to the city we know. Movers are coming this week and if all goes well, Friday afternoon will find our Prius somewhere between Washington, D.C. and Michigan.

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We are excited for the new adventures ahead. Excited to meet our little guy and become parents, excited to spend the summer in Michigan, and excited to become Aggies late in the summer as Mark begins new adventures at Texas A&M.

But it’s bittersweet too, to leave a city where we have so many memories. Mark and I both showed up in D.C. as single young professionals, ready to tackle this thing called adult life. We met here, dated here, and planned a wedding in between long work days at our first “real” jobs.

No matter where we go after this, D.C. will always be the city where we started this great adventure of married life. No matter what size apartment or house we live in after this, Northeast D.C. will be the place where we lived for a year in our cozy house on a questionable street with three roommates, five bikes, a shared kitchen and a mysteriously bottomless pile of dishes.

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It’s bittersweet to leave the friendships I have here behind, too. It’s not really goodbye forever, because the kind of friendships that hurt to leave aren’t really friendships that end. The emails and texts and visits will go on, but there’s something sad about this changing rhythm of friendship, about saying goodbye to casual random visits and regular hangouts on back decks and knowing who will come when you invite everyone over for chili at the last minute.

My friendships with these wonderful women have truly been some of the most precious and important relationships of my life. They’ve seen me at my best and at my very worst and their prayers and love and laughter have carved a permanent place into my heart.

But we weren’t made to stand still. Mark and I and all of these dear friends have adventures ahead, adventures that are sometimes hard to begin but adventures that are good gifts all the same. And if I leave our friends here with one thing, it would be this quote from Donald Miller, these words that always ring true:

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“And so my prayer is that your story will have involved some leaving and some coming home, some summer and some winter, some roses blooming out like children in a play. My hope is your story will be about changing, about getting something beautiful born inside of you about learning to love a woman or a man, about learning to love a child, about moving yourself around water, around mountains, around friends, about learning to love others more than we love ourselves, about learning oneness as a way of understanding God. We get one story, you and I, and one story alone. God has established the elements, the setting and the climax and the resolution. It would be a crime not to venture out, wouldn’t it?

It might be time for you to go. It might be time to change, to shine out. I want to repeat one word for you: Leave.

Roll the word around on your tongue for a bit. It is a beautiful word, isn’t it? So strong and forceful, the way you have always wanted to be. And you will not be alone. You have never been alone. Don’t worry.”

Weekend Inspiration

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“It’s time to start living the life you’ve imagined.” – Henry James

Happy weekend, my friends.

Weekend Linkage

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Hello, dear ones! We’re back from a trip to Germany and Albania that was wonderful and memorable and challenging and unpredictably crazy all at once. (Aren’t most trips that way? That’s why we travel, it seems to me.) I have so many pictures and stories that I am excited to share with you, so be on the lookout next week.

Right now, we’ve managed to unpack, do our mountains of laundry, answer our emails and take care of all of that important random ridiculous stuff that manages to pile up during vacation. We even survived the first-evening-back jet-lag by watching back-to-back episodes of Friday Night Lights. (Staying awake until 10:00 pm has never felt so much like a college-final all-nighter).

I fully expected to be greeted by a warm D.C. spring and was fully disappointed. But supposedly spring is coming this weekend. We’ll see. (Does anyone believe that warm weather is actually coming anymore?)

But despite the cold and despite the wonderful time that we had during our luxuriously long trip, I am so glad to be back, so grateful for my warm house and our routines, excited to see my students’ faces and so happy to be back with friends and with you all.

Enjoy these links while we slide into a weekend that I hope holds rest and joy and community and so many other good things for you.

Here are some particularly dark quotes on the terror that is the writing life from famous authors.

And, by contrast, a list of ten of the best lines ever penned.

This piece on the young blogging industry was inspiring, exciting, and challenging all at once. What do you think? Is blogging an “industry”?

Laura Bush is one of my heroes. I thought this slide show from her Instagram feed was so much fun.

I’m loving the Vera Bradley summer 2014 collection. Also, how did I not know that VB has a line of flip-flops??

What are your favorite books for babies? I have so many that it feel traitorous to even attempt a list, but a few of my favorites are Goodnight Moon, Love You Forever, and The Grouchy Ladybug.

Speaking of babies, here’s one mother’s fascinating take (and conclusion) on her daughter’s digital footprint. Although I can’t say I agree with everything said here (or done . . . a digital trust fund? What?), the questions raised are good ones. If you have children, what are your policies for and thoughts on your children and their digital persona?

Finally, here’s an interesting take on why toothpicks make the best cake-testers. Sometimes I use a metal knife. That’s really not kosher, apparently.

Happy Friday, friends!

 

 

Spring, Creativity, and Success

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Some friends and I were talking about the coming of spring a few weeks ago, before spring had actually hinted that it might someday grace us with is presence.

“One day, you just walk out of work and know that it’s different,” one friend commented. And it’s true. A few weeks ago, during one of DC’s deceptive warm spells, I stepped outside and knew that winter had lost. It got cold again; we even got more snow. But this cold was different. It was spring cold, an early spring blizzard, a last gasping of a dying season.

And now we have longer daylight hours and the hope of a 70-degree day and I think I’ve said goodbye to my sweaters and my down jacket and my pink boots and my other sweaters. I hear birds in the morning, birds that must have been curled up under overhanging eaves somewhere during the frigid early morning hours of January and February.

It really does happen all at once, and yet, sort of only in retrospect. All of those little pieces add up when one is looking the other way and then suddenly, a new picture, new warmth, a new season emerges.

Isn’t this how our lives and jobs and dreams change, too? In the wee hours, when we aren’t looking, perspectives and tracks and goals and plans are re-shaped and then one day, we’re surprised to find that everything is different. But we really shouldn’t be surprised we know, because of course it is; if we would only look, we can see all of those little winding paths that brought us here.

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My work is reflective of all of those seasonal changes too. A million little threads of my actual skills and experience and random gigs and assignments and a hodgepodge of work that was terrifying in its unpredictability suddenly all bound together and now make up a much more tangible, realistic, coherent picture. Suddenly I have work and the trust of others and confidence in my own abilities that was only a distant cloudy illusion before. Suddenly, there’s warmth and (some) security and excitement where there was only terror and trembling steps and a lot of unknown before.

And I know that this can’t last, that we aren’t meant to thrive in safe corners, and that more uncertainty surely waits around the next bend. But the reality of small successes, the fulfilled promise of spring, all of those little courageous moments that led to a happy ending of sorts, remind me that insecurity and terror and those uncertain times are ok because underneath that frozen soil, bulbs are preparing to bloom.

So here are some helpful ideas for thriving through those cold times of uncertainty. Keep dreaming. Spring is coming and one day, when you least expect it, you’ll walk out of work and it will have arrived.

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1. Keep building threads. Everyone has a dream or two. Even in hard times, busy times, tired times, keep pushing. Maybe it’s not possible to work on your dream 5 hours a day. But 10 minutes might be a possibility. Maybe you can’t be a full-time writer/artist/musician. But you might be able to do a sporadic project or two. So get up earlier or go to bed later or stay off of Facebook during break and use those ten minutes to write or network or brainstorm or create. All of those tiny fragments are far more important than they might seem.

2. Hold specifics loosely. Dreams are helpful. Rigid maps are sometimes not. Goals and lists and specific plans are useful in the small moments but sometimes need to be released if the big picture is to happen. Don’t be afraid to let go of your pet steps in favor of the bigger dream.

3. Expect the unexpected. Very few successes happen on schedule. Most great stories, career or relationship related, begin with some version of “When I was least expecting it.” Be ready for a door to open that you assumed would stay closed; keep an eye out for those open windows of opportunity that you might be overlooking.

4. Remember how the cold times felt. They’ll come again. Discouragement and anxiety and frustration and fear are a part of the cycle of being human. When they re-appear after times of success and excitement and joy, don’t be surprised. And don’t turn back. Accept the season as a part of reality and continue to press through to spring.

5. Stay inspired. Keep reading those authors, listening to those podcasts, writing those poems, going on those runs that make you feel inspired and excited and more alive. All of that pent-up energy and inspiration may not have anywhere to land right this second, but one day, you’ll suddenly need that stock of wisdom and inspiration and encouragement.

How do you stay motivated during the winter-season of creativity?

 

Weekend Linkage

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Happy weekend! We made it – through what may have been the shortest week ever with the snow cancellations and delays.

But if this short week still left you feeling like you need a hefty glass of wine, be sure to take note of how you’re holding your glass.

These 5 reading rules will help you shed book guilt forever and enjoy your reading time more.

Need some productivity inspiration? This extensive productivity guide offers a complete package (which they promise can be read in 20 minutes) of expert advice.

Sometimes, worry can be a good thing.

A friend sent me this article by an economist who shares her perspective on pregnancy studies and the rules that come with them.

Apparently I’m not the only one who needs help making enough time to write.

Planning a spring or summer wedding? Love these free printable cupcake toppers.

Which is your favorite white wedding cake in this gallery? I love the one with the daisies.

Enjoy your weekend, my lovely readers!

Welcoming March – This Month’s Goals

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March is here! Hooray! I’m not even going to spend one second talking about the ridiculous spring blizzard that is currently blasting us. Spring will win. Winter is on its last breath. Soon we’ll all be taking selfies in front of the cherry blossoms. So there.

The #imagesofsummer hashtag photo challenge is helping me remind myself that summer always returns. Join in! You can participate if you have a blog or a Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram account.

February was one of those months that was good in a bunch of ways that I didn’t expect it to be.  My original goals for February didn’t all happen, but other good things stepped up to replace them:

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  • I finished The Blue Bottle Craft of Coffee, but didn’t finish anything else, mostly because I made the mistake of starting more books. But I’ve also managed to work my way through Craig Groeschel’s WeirdOne great perk to pregnancy is that people lend and give you books – lots of them. I’m excited to start Debra Rienstra’s Great with Child and Nina Planck’s Real Food for Mother and Baby, lent to me by Shannon.
  • Thanks to Mark’s help, we DID decorate a couple of walls! That’s right, not just one. I also rearranged our living room and the result is a much cozier, more usable space. Also, I was able to knock out some much-needed organizing, so our entire house feels a little cleaner and less cluttered. Finally, a friend of ours was getting rid of a table and gave it to us. I LOVE it and can’t wait for spring so I can paint it. Hooray for successful domesticity!
  • One plant actually survived February, so maybe my thumb is becoming less black. Then I got excited and bought a mint plant and a cilantro plant. Let’s see if these poor devils survive as well.
  • The trip that I planned to take to San Diego with my mom was an epic fail. A blizzard hit the D.C. area on the day of my departure and successfully grounded me for the ENTIRE weekend. But every cloud has a silver lining and my cancelled trip meant that I got to spend Valentine’s Day and President’s Day Weekend with Mark.
  • A visit from Rachel, the engagement (and subsequent engagement party at our home) of two lovely friends, spontaneous dates with Mark, and a basketball game also made February memorable.

Here are some of my favorite Instagrams from February:

 

 

 

Goals for March include:

  • Reading – Finishing some of these books. Goodness. I can’t keep starting new ones without finishing something. Does anyone else have this problem?
  • Baby Prep – I need to create our baby registry and do some general planning. Any tips or suggestions?
  • Sewing – Anything, really, but ideally those cloth napkins that I need to finish hemming. Maybe some pillows?
  • Travel – Secret plans are in the works. Reveal coming soon! (Hopefully we won’t be snowed in this time.)

What do you hope to accomplish in March?

Weekend Linkage

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Today is the last, glorious day of February! To celebrate, the thermometers all plummeted again, just as I was absolutely certain that spring would come.

But then there is this quote that I love by Anne Bradstreet (if you didn’t take a six-week Colonial Literature course instead of enjoying the lovely months of May and June and if you don’t know who Anne Bradstreet is, you’re missing out.).

“If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant: if we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome.”

And she lived in Massachusetts, which is even colder, so I think I can safely rely on her wisdom. The warmth and sunshine of spring and summer will be so much sweeter this year because of this long, dark, cold winter.

But while we’re waiting for the cherry blossoms to arrive, here are some links to check out while you huddle indoors this weekend.

Are your conversation habits undermining your credibility?

I’m not sure I want to read this fast, but this app’s claim is fascinating.

This bit of advice on stepping back, waiting, moving slowly, was just the advice this introvert needed (and hopefully what you need today as well!).

A friend sent me these provoking thoughts on how to love and reach out to singles in our circles.

Eloquent thoughts addressing some of the underlying issues with our mission trips.

What sitcoms are doing to our sense of story - and what our age of instantaneous can’t seem to take away.

Some tips (and a couple of recipes!) for better smoothies.

These tips for adding loving touches to one’s home were adorable.

And finally, a few lovely classic touches for the summer weddings that are being planned right now.

Happy weekend, my friends.

 

A Reminder About Perspective (And a List to Inspire Creativity)

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Do you ever feel like your creative well is running a bit dry? I think spells of lethargy are normal, even for the most creative and original of people. But I get frustrated when these strike, when times of unfinished drafts, ideas that I can’t seem to push through to completion, and great ideas that I don’t have the energy (or courage?) to turn into reality seem to take over my existence.

I’m a big believer in the idea that the surface problem may not be the real problem – often my surface symptoms of irritability, stress, or ennui cover up deeper issues that I need to face.

For instance, we were busier than usual last weekend. All of the things on our calendar were wonderful, good, things and involved time with people we enjoy and activities we both want to pursue. But I found myself feeling stressed, rushed, and overwhelmed. I caught myself partway through the day on Saturday and was able to check my mood and actually enjoy the wonderful time that we spent with friends, but I couldn’t peg the source of all of my angst.

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Then during Sunday morning’s sermon, this line struck me: “Scarcity has a snowball effect – scarcity begets scarcity.” One of my notes in the margins of my journal says: “Acting as if I’m strapped for time, I am living under a scarcity mindset and will never have enough to share.” Ouch.

These few words, and my entire weekend, taught me a valuable lesson: perspective really is everything.

If I feel like I don’t have enough time, don’t have enough energy, can’t give any more – well, then, I won’t. 

But what if we applied this to creativity? When I’m feeling listless and uncreative, when I’m having difficulty pushing projects through to fulfillment, what if a simple shift in perspective changed everything? A scarcity mindset say that I can’t think of a good blog post, don’t have time to read, can’t get home in time to make dinner, definitely can’t fit those people into this week’s schedule, don’t have time to implement ideas, don’t care enough about my projects.

But what if I operated under an abundance mindset instead? I have plenty of time, ideas, and energy – more than enough to share. I don’t need to be stressed – there is time enough to do everything that I need to do. I love sharing words and blog posts – even if they aren’t perfect, it’s ok to release them. So this week, I’m trying to remind myself to have an abundance perspective.

Still not sure how to break out of the creative rut? Try taking these 5 steps. A little change of perspective can work wonders.

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1. Choose to do something imperfectly rather than not doing it at all. I’m a perfectionist, and so often my fear of mediocrity or failure keeps me from acting. Bravery is a discipline. Complete something this week even if you fear it’s not yet ready or perfect.

2. Make your space more conducive to creativity. You don’t need to do an entire home makeover to make your home more creative-friendly. I spent an hour yesterday pushing some side-tables and our couches around after buying just one new lamp. But three of our rooms look completely different. They’re so much cozier and I was more excited to get up and work today just because of the changes.

Suddenly, all of my internal stress over how our house decor wasn’t complete or perfect was gone as I realized what a happy, cozy little home we have. Sometimes all that I need to do is simply clean off my desk so that I can focus on being creative rather than on all of the little mundane tasks on my list. Spend a few minutes looking at your home through the eyes of an abundance mindset and your creative juices will thank you.

3. Give yourself permission to stop stressing over what you aren’t doing. I haven’t blogged as much as I would in an ideal world. But I’m reminding myself that that is ok, because less blogging time has meant more (abundant) time making our home cozy, more time focusing on projects that are good for my career, more time completing projects that I wasn’t finding time for, more time spent with Mark. Next year promises to be a very busy season for us and I’m trying to embrace this little bubble of abundant calm that God has given us rather than frantically trying to squeeze the most productivity out of every moment.

4. Stop wasting time on things that steal from your abundance mindset. Sometimes, in an effort to inspire myself, I get on Facebook, my blogroll, Pinterest, Instagram. This rarely helps. Most of the time, if I already am having difficulty creating something, these outlets just make me more frustrated, discontent, and creatively stumped.

5. When creative blocks strike, DO something. Attack life with an abundance mindset. Explore a new trail, bake something, edit some of your pictures, do a small simple craft, take out a piece of paper and brainstorm. Instead of trying to find inspiration, create something (even a memory) that is small and simple.

How do you remind yourself to create with an abundance mindset?

Weekend Linkage

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Happy Weekend! The weather is warming up and the sun has graced us with its presence this week.

Have I ever talked about how much I love Cereal Mag’s photo essays?

Evidence continues to show that whole milk is better for kids (and adults!) than the lower fat varieties.

Have you ever made cookies this cute?

These tips for a professional blow-dry will change your life. Happy hair-days, every day!

Would you read someone else’s journals?

Let’s remind ourselves to ask better questions.

Wife of an engineer, daughter of a doctor, sister to a nurse and an aspiring doctor, I often wonder what possessed me when I chose English as a major. Twice. I have so many thoughts on this lovely article about professions and beauty and hope, but if you do nothing else today, simply read it.

Also, I’ve so enjoyed the #imagesofsummer that some of you have shared on Instagram (thanks to @lisa_mo and @ssedwards1 especially!). My absolute favorite was this lovely sunset shot of the Potomac by @ssedward1.

It promises to be a beautiful weekend. Enjoy it, friends.